
My Mom is the most wonderful woman I've ever met. Hands down. I almost fault her for setting the bar so high for my future wife. To live up to all that she is, would be such a monumental task (yet, it'd be sexy for someone to take that as a challenge and not a deterrent).
I think so highly of her, yet I'm not even sure how cognizant of it she is.
Let me give you an example.
Last Saturday night I went out with some friends to a nightclub in D.C. My friend Patsy has a long-term (2 years) boyfriend named Mike. Mike's a great guy and him and I get along pretty well (this isn't as off track as you think). When Patsy and the girls started dancing, him and I got into an interesting conversation.
I asked him what his Mom did for a living. He said she's a nurse. I said, hmmmm, that makes sense.
See, Patsy is gorgeous. A 10. Plus she just got promoted at work and has a lot spunk and ambition. She's a catch, and I wondered what she saw in Mike that makes him such a keeper.
Over the next half-hour him and I discussed what it was like to grow up with a Mom who was a nurse. The challenges they face. The late-night paperwork. The fact that our father's had to accompany them at times to visits in unsafe areas and at night.
But moreover, we discussed our supreme respect for women. Which surely differentiates us from many other men. See, when your mother is a nurse, you not only value her as your Mom, and as a good wife to your Pops. You also see the emotional taxation she faces in her career. Different than being a receptionist. Different than being a jeweler.
Additionally, our Mom's worked as home-health RN's. The nurses that see people at their worst. Their final days (week/months). And they try to make the transition to death as peaceful, painless and easy as possible. For the patient and their family/friends. You can't have just a regular heart for that. You need a superhuman one.
Which my Mom has. And I assume Mike's does as well.
Mike and I agreed that we value and respect women very highly. Our Mother(s) had to be a wife, a Mom and a nurse. With little margin for error or breakdowns. And we are in awe of them for handling that with grace and kindness.
We also agreed that it puts our petty problems in perspective. And that we recognize not to be like the 'typical' man who comes home and either vents/ignores his girlfriend or wife. I don't care how hard my 8-12 hour shift was, you still help cook and clean and you show her how much you love her.
Yes, this was a very strange conversation for two straight men to have at 1:00AM Saturday night after a few beers.
But it happened nonetheless. So thank you Mom. Thanks for being the most amazing, loving, wonderful woman on Earth. Thanks for teaching me how highly to value women. I'm sure my future wife/girlfriend's will thank you for your profound influence. They will be recipient's of a better man because of you.
Thanks Mom.




